We are all shaped by our own history. What do I mean? Well, my parents weren't perfect and did the best they could raising me. Did they make mistakes? Yes. Do they love me? Yes. Do I have to parent the exact same way? No. Do I find myself doing things the way they did them? Yes. Even the wrong things? Yes.
I am constantly learning and re-adjusting my ways of parenting. Most of the time I reflect on the situation, pray, discuss it with Kirk, and then we deal with it in the way that seems best. Wouldn't life be great if we did that every time? Yes, it would, but we're not perfect. When we realize we've made a mistake, we apologize, we move on and do our best to do it the right way next time.
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Saturday, April 19, 2008
Monday, April 7, 2008
A Rant
I have such different ideas and feelings than most people and I have found it easier to just keep my mouth shut. Why? I'm tired of hearing how wrong I am, sigh.
I keep asking the Lord why I'm so different. I feel caught in a world all my own with God as my only friend. He and I talk constantly and His guidance keeps me going. I can talk all I want and let it all out, I feel so secure in knowing He is big enough to handle it all. When I am spent or have let it all out, there is sweet contentment and I feel His presence so fully. He never yells at me, puts me down, or criticizes me. If there is something I am not seeing or understanding we talk about it. There are many conversations that happen over and over again. He is still patient with me and doesn't beat me over the head. I am human and there are consequences that I have to accept sometimes. Sometimes God shows mercy. I want to parent my kids the same way.
I want them to look to God for their life's plan. He created them for a purpose. We as parents are to help them find that purpose but not through force. I keep having certain people tell me that I have to force my kids to do certain things. If I don't, then I am teaching them to be lazy and quitters. I COMPLETELY DISAGREE!!!! There will be consequences to all of life's decisions and my kids will learn from them just like I have. Just like we all do. We, as adults, can talk with our kids about our life's experiences. Yes, adults have wisdom to share but we certainly don't know it all.
Note: This is a rant, it may or not make sense to you but I feel better ;)
I keep asking the Lord why I'm so different. I feel caught in a world all my own with God as my only friend. He and I talk constantly and His guidance keeps me going. I can talk all I want and let it all out, I feel so secure in knowing He is big enough to handle it all. When I am spent or have let it all out, there is sweet contentment and I feel His presence so fully. He never yells at me, puts me down, or criticizes me. If there is something I am not seeing or understanding we talk about it. There are many conversations that happen over and over again. He is still patient with me and doesn't beat me over the head. I am human and there are consequences that I have to accept sometimes. Sometimes God shows mercy. I want to parent my kids the same way.
I want them to look to God for their life's plan. He created them for a purpose. We as parents are to help them find that purpose but not through force. I keep having certain people tell me that I have to force my kids to do certain things. If I don't, then I am teaching them to be lazy and quitters. I COMPLETELY DISAGREE!!!! There will be consequences to all of life's decisions and my kids will learn from them just like I have. Just like we all do. We, as adults, can talk with our kids about our life's experiences. Yes, adults have wisdom to share but we certainly don't know it all.
Note: This is a rant, it may or not make sense to you but I feel better ;)
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